Bride invites 9 out of 10 of her coworkers to her wedding, the 1 coworker calls out his exclusion during department meeting: 'I could see the bride's face visibly change'

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Aug 9, 2024 3:00 PM EDT

Being excluded is no fun. It's so troubling when you're a tween and find out that the group chat you're in has a smaller secret group chat for the people that everyone actually wants to hang out with. As you grow up, exclusion gets less and less frequent because you can deprioritize those who exclude you much easier than you can when there are only 400 people at your high school. Even if you're a grown adult with a life and a job, being excluded can really bring you down, especially if you're the only one who is left out of a given situation. 

One worker recently went viral on Reddit for sharing his story of being the only employee excluded from his coworker's wedding. Instead of letting another coworker assume that he simply couldn't make it, he clarified that he wasn't invited, which caused some tension during the department meeting. 

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    AITA for letting people know I was the only one in my department not invited to coworkers wedding when they were told I couldn't attend?
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    So a woman in my department got married. Everyone in the department (10, excluding bride) was invited except for me. I was personally told the wedding was being kept small as they didn't want to spend extravagantly. The others were told that I couldn't attend. At a department meeting following the wedding when the bride
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    was back from the honeymoon, everyone was talking about the wedding. A coworker commented it was a shame I couldn't attend; I remarked that I wasn't even invited. I could see the brides face visibly change and now she is mad at me and out working relationship is cordial at best.
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    To further this, our department had a dinner and celebration for her and I contributed to the gift. The date was selected and changed based on others availability, but I couldn't attend due to a trip overseas I had planned last year. It wasn't even discussed if it could be changed so I could attend. The person organizing it was another coworker and her best friend. I think this other coworker and not the bride herself is the one behind my exclusion for some reason unbeknownst to me.
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    So AITA for clarifying that I was never even invited in front of the whole department that was told that I couldn't attend?
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    cascadia1979 - 22 hr. ago INFO: Why would the bride have chosen to exclude you in particular? What might have happened in the past between you two that could have caused her to exclude you? I don't think you're an for saying you weren't invited, it's the truth, but I do wonder what the backstory is here.
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    WilliamBHuggins OP. 22 hr. ago No backstory. We had a really good work relationship, everyone in department gets along. No idea why the exclusion. The other coworker (who is her best friend) seems to not like me and I have no idea why. I've been working with them for 4 years and they were already here for a few years
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    together before that. And it's not like I took a job they should've gotten because they don't have the skills to do the job I do and that's not even a question. They aren't on that level and won't be. They do more admin type work.
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    pinlets 21 hr. ago Going to have to disagree with you that you guys have a really good relationship. Either you're lying to us, or lying to yourself. There's no way she thinks of all of her coworkers equally but just happened to exclude you (and only you) on a whim.
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    FoxySlyOldStoatyFox · 21 hr. ago To be fair, the coworker could be the liar; if the OP has always found her colleague to be a reasonable person and good colleague then why would she dig deeper? It's the coworker who has a problem. She has been deceived.
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    And... that's fine. I've often worked with people who I haven't liked but have made nice and hopefully they've never noticed. It's this BS about the wedding which is the problem.
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    Three-Pegged-Hare 21 hr. ago I only don't think it was the friend (or not ONLY the friend) because OP's post says that the bride's face changed upon hearing the clarification and that the bride is mad at OP, not her friend. This tells me the bride either made the call, or at least knew and was on board with it
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    WelshBitch92 - 21 hr. ago Or.....the dodgy friend had told the bride that OP had mentioned they were busy on the wedding date, so bride didn't need to send an invitation. The bride looked shocked because she was genuinely surprised.
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    OP - who handed out the invitations? Maybe MoH offered to hand out invites at work, and yours found it's way into the bin.
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    gwestdds 21 hr. ago Even if you know someone can't attend you still mail (not hand out) an invitation. Being invited in itself is a special gesture.
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    Goblinking79 21 hr. ago Nah, the bride was just mad about being outed as a liar. That doesn't specifically have anything to do with who doesn't like OP or didn't want to invite her. That's just being embarrassed about getting caught in a lie.
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    bbybear712 21 hr. ago My husband had a woman that loathed him at work because he took an unassigned desk that she happened to like, on the day he started and she wasn't there. So he sat there to finish training and she HATED him for it. Like when she left the company he wasn't invited to the get together. Years later he started working somewhere else and she happened to be working there. She saw him gave him a
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    death glare then apparently tried to talk about him to other people. My husband though was beloved at that job and no one could figure out what her problem was. Some people just feel the need to have a rival or someone they hate for no good reason
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    Jumpy_Succotash_241 20 hr. ago Not true. I used to have a Co worker that was super friendly to me all the time. Then she had a birthday party and I was the only one not invited. I over heard her in the staff kitchen telling a colleague I wasn't invited because she didn't like me. I found out later it was because she liked a guy in the office and he mentioned he thought I was cute and she hated it. It really is that petty in offices.
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    WilliamBHuggins OP. 21 hr. ago Don't look down on them. Would never and never say what I posted to them was just putting info for fact purposes. I have certifications that I need my degree to obtain and they don't have the degree - hence they won't be able to be at my level. In fact I recognize them for their work, when they go above and beyond and the contributions they make.
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    esk_209.21 hr. ago I don't think the backstory matters. OP wasn't invited, and the bride lied about it. It's fine not to invite someone for whatever reason -- no one is entitled to an invitation -- but if the bride didn't want questions about it, she should have been honest about who was invited and who wasn't.
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